Step 16 – Open-ness


“a stranger is a friend we haven’t met”

I love that quote. It says much about our inbuilt suspicions of others; their motives, their ‘bad-ness’, their mistrustful characters.

but aren’t we all human beings? just doing the best we can? aren’t our motives the same? to find happiness, joy, balance, and wisdom? some might be misguided in how they think they will achieve those aims, but the fundamental drives are the same.

the commonalities are there.


some of the people I value most in life are the ones I had a bad reaction to when I first met them. They were too much of this, or too much or that, or weren’t considerate enough, or too pushy. They were my own biases. But when I got to know them better (through a forced work environment) I could appreciate their stronger qualities; maybe traits I didn’t have. A valuable lesson.

in more normal situations, I would have avoided those people, and not gained from a connection. Through open-ness, and withholding judgment for a-while, I openly benefit. Give people a chance to show the full range of their character and life experience.

I’m much more embracing these days ๐Ÿ™‚

scored for strings (1st and 2nd violins) and bassoon


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19 Responses to “Step 16 – Open-ness”

  1. Debbie Lattuga Says:

    Great site. Love the thoughts and the music. Keep it up, I’ll be following

  2. as i am Says:

    Great message, intriguing image and beautiful music. Such a treat to come to your site. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. theundeadblogger Says:

    I too have a few close friends who initially turned me off a bit. It is interesting how the qualities that sometimes initially turn us off to a person, can become some of their most endearing qualities in the end.

  4. mycardz Says:

    Funny you should write this today, since it’s exactly how I feel about you! I have learned to tolerate and even become friends with many diverse personalities throughout my life, I do, however, avoid rude people at all costs!

  5. bundleocontradictions Says:

    Thank you. I enjoyed that immensely. ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Molly Says:

    What a fabulous quote. I love it.

    And your music continues to move me. Wow.

    It is a cold grey snowy late afternoon in Boulder, Colorado….I really enjoyed listening to your music and watching the snow…

  7. Elena Says:

    What a wonderful and unique blog. Thank you for the food for thought and nourishment for the soul.

  8. Mystic Mind Says:

    We’re SO alike, that’s what what we’re afraid of. To admit that we ARE the shadow we cast onto others. Great blog entry!

  9. judeshaw Says:

    I followed your link from the comment you left on my blog to your blog. Love the quote, couldn’t agree more. We’re all just human beings doing the best we can. Beautiful music!! Thanks,

  10. judeshaw Says:

    Oh, forgot to mention. I love Alex Grey too. Am reading an awesome book by him, “The Mission of Art”. It’s very inspiring.

  11. croquecamille Says:

    A musical blog – how cool! And I completely agree, when I first met my husband, I thought he was an arrogant jerk. Glad I saw the error of my ways! ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. Doraz Says:

    Thank you for stopping by earlier, Much appreciate your comments. I love your blog and I hope it is ok with you . I added you to my blogroll. Hope you get a lot more visitors. Great work! Love this post, Agree 100% I just treat other people like I wish they would treat me!

  13. shaaakspsyco Says:

    which program do you use?
    I love violins.

  14. rikakika Says:

    Hey hi thanks aaha.
    I love the song by the way. too bad i cant play, but its better to hear others play (for you) ha!

  15. Renรฉe Says:

    I have been reading your entries and simply had to comment on the beauty of this one. I adore the imagery that you share as well.

  16. The Cincinnati Therapy Guy Says:

    Thank you for your site, your thoughts and words
    Dennis Mendleson

  17. Esmaa Self Says:

    Enjoy the way the music fits the visual.

  18. kathy igoe Says:

    Thank you for sharing of yourself in the way that you have on your blog/site. I love this open-ness graphic: a labyrinth mindmap. Is it yours? You’ll notice from my site that I facilitate meditative and ritual labyrinth walks. I need to listen to your music to see if it would enhance the walk experience. I’ll get back to you on that. Be Well, K

  19. lookingforbeauty Says:

    Those are wise words.
    The nervous surface character that a person presents on first meeting is not necessarily an accurate reflection of the soul within.
    As people open up their selves to others, they reveal the riches (or not) of their being.
    Did you do the painting? It is awesome.
    also posting as

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